To the mother feeling overwhelmed with all the Ramadhan decors she saw in social medias,

To the mother feeling inadequate for not being able to whip up fancy schamancy iftaar meals in the kitchen,

To the mother feeling defeated of not being able to join taraweeh because her baby needs her,

To the mother feeling exhausted with all the loads she is carrying but still trying to welcome Ramadhan,

I see you- your feelings are valid. No one is judging nor questioning your actions.

Yes i know, ramadhan is almost halfway done.

But it is not about who start the race first. But in fact, what’s important is – who can reach the finishing line?

My sincerest advice will be, in any situation you are in right now- take a deep breath and say Alhamdulillah for the opportunity to meet this blessed month again. Alhamdulillah Allah has given us another chance to reap the multiplied rewards in Ramadhan.

Alhamdulillah alhamdulillah alhamdulillah.

I know different families have different needs, receive different kinds of support. Let’s focus more inwards- focus on what we CAN do instead of CANNOT / NOT ABLE to do.

There is a Qaidah Fiqhiyah that states:

ما لا يُدرك كله، لا يترك كله

Whatever that cannot be attained completely, should not be completely left.

If you can’t finish one juzu in a day, maybe aim for half juz?

If you are too tired to do terawih, how about making sincere intention to do 8 first?

Instead of giving up your intention to khatam your Quran recitation (because it’s halfway of Ramadhan and you are having menses now!), how about finding other ways to connect with the Quran? You can read the tafsir, tadabbur on certain verses, read stories from the Quran with your kids – while making sincere dua’s that Allah put barakah in your time and you can still finish the khatam inshaAllah!

Instead of feeling down for not being able to join terawih at the masjid, how about finishing your juzu’ while praying terawih at the comfort of your house (✅terawih done ✅one juzu per day done)

Aiming a ramadhan target that you think is achievable within your means (with all the mental loads you are carrying) – this is important.

And the most important thing? Continuing all these commendable ibadah outside of Ramadhan.

May we be among the people who always strive towards Allah, hasten to do goodness and that all

our ibaadah ( small or big) are accepted in the eyes of Allah!